FAQs

To find a listening partner, simply navigate to the member’s directory and browse the profiles. By clicking on the types dropdown menu, you can filter members by one of the main English speaking regions. This groups people into rough time zones and makes it more likely that your schedules will be compatible. You can also search by name, gender, and age range.

When you have found someone you like the look of, simply click on the send message tab. You can just type something simple like “Hi, how are you? My name is…. Are you interested in a listening partnership?” When the person replies, arrange for an introductory video chat to see if they are the right fit.

Once you are in a stable regular listening partnership, please remember to hide your membership (see below) so that other members don’t think you are still looking for someone.

If you feel uncomfortable about messaging individual users you don’t know, you can address people in general by posting in the news feed. Describe what you are after and see who replies. But don’t be shy. Everyone’s here for the same reason, looking to help each other out.

Please fill out your profile. At a minimum you should upload a photo. This will make you more personable and makes it more likely that potential partners will approach you. Simply click on profile from the menu and then on edit to upload details.

The main aim of the introductory chat is to get to know each other a little to see if you ‘click’. Just relax and have a friendly chat. You can broach the topics that are on your mind that you would like to discuss if you like, but in general that comes later once you have built up some trust in your listener.

If you agree to try out a listening partnership, there are 5 things you should ideally do.

1. Finalise when and how often you are going to meet. Once or twice a week is standard.
2. Agree on how long the meetings are going to be. We recommend between 30 and 50 minutes.
3. Agree who will be the listener in the first meeting. One way to decide this would be to have the person whose first name comes first alphabetically starts as the listener.
4. Finalise how much verbal contribution each member is supposed to make in their role as listener. We recommend that the listener should not be speaking more than about 20% of the time, however, some people prefer a more dynamic natural conversation.
5. You should exchange telephone numbers in case there are any problems with scheduling at short notice.

Once you are in a stable listening partnership you should hide your membership (see below). This is so that other members don’t think that you are still looking for a partner, and so that you don’t receive messages from them.

To see what the benefits are of having a regular listening partner, please watch the video on our homepage, or read the text version below the video. Click on this link>>> https://listentoeachother.com/

If your partner is in the same geographical area as you, scheduling is straightforward, as there will no (or only a small) time difference between you.

But if you want help scheduling, the best thing to do is to go to the international meeting planner by clicking this link: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/meeting.html

Simply click “search” and enter the locations of you and your partner. You will then get a side-by-side time table like the one below.

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Once you are in a stable listening partnership, please hide your membership. This is so that other members don’t think you are still looking and send you messages accordingly.

To hide your membership, go to your profile and click on the “Edit” button of the Registration Info section. Scroll down to where it says “Membership Type” and select “Hidden Member” from the dropdown menu. Then click the “Save Changes” button just below.

To unhide your membership, just re-select your geographical region from the dropdown menu. Don’t forget to click “Save Changes”.

Our services costs $49.99 (US) or the equivalent for a year’s membership (unless you have a discount code).

If your listening partner turns out not to be the right fit for you, or your circumstances change, you can break it off at any time and try someone new.

If you want to terminate a listening partnership, you should communicate this clearly but respectfully. Whatever you do, don’t just ‘ghost’ your partner. We are all people here and people have feelings.

Upon termination, if you would like to try out someone new, remember to unhide your membership (see above). If you do not do this, you will not appear in the membership database and so people will not be able to find you.

That is entirely up to you and your partner. It could be short term, or potentially last a lifetime.

It is part of the Terms and Conditions that you abide by our honour code. The honour code states that you will not discuss your listening partner’s issues with a third party. Discussing someone else’s ‘baggage’ with anyone else is a serious breach of confidence and is unacceptable.

It is also a breach of confidentiality that someone else should be eavesdropping on your conversations. When you are acting as the listener, make sure the door to the room you are in is closed.

Yes. However, each partnership comes with a commitment to listen to your partner an equal amount of time, so make sure you can live up to those commitments.

At listentoeachother.com we do not tolerate abusive behaviour. Any abuse should be reported to admin, especially violations of our honour code (that is, breaches of confidentiality). To find the administrator type “administrator” into the search bar and send a message. Breach of respectful rules of conduct can lead to memberships being restricted or even revoked.

Yes. Your membership will automatically renew at the end of the year. If you do not wish to renew your membership (at a price of US $49.99), you must cancel your subscription before the term’s end. Don’t worry; we will send you an email reminding you when your membership is about to renew.